"I create the possibility that we can carry out the "D Word" and remain friends and a support for each other. This blog will document my experience of this process. While my position may seem harsh or insensitive at times, I have nothing but perfect love for my soon to be ex-husband. I am gracefully accepting my place as a majority statistic."
I was able to be supportive of him for about 6 months, with conditions. I tapered off the time I spent with my ex-stepson over the course of a year. I had to finally make a completely clean break about 2 years post divorce because M continued to be weird and nostalgic through text and email. It became evident to me that he was going to always be the person I knew him to be: Inauthentic and with an agenda. Self serving. Self pitying. I was resentful of his attempts to draw my compassion in and I finally just drew the line. Friendship was unrealistic. I still love him as a person. I know his hurts. I want good for his life. But there is no way in hell I will subject my emotional well-being to his Cluster B traits.
In other news, I find myself filling out recent paperwork and purposely opting for "single" as opposed to "divorced". I just don't see why I have to embrace that label and why it's anyone's business.
